Reflections on Heritage & Immigration

My grandmother was 15 when the Nazis invaded Poland. Able-bodied and raised Catholic, her life was spared, but she was nonetheless apprehended, abruptly stripped from family ties, and sent to a forced labor camp where she later escaped and joined the Jewish Underground Resistance. She was later recaptured and imprisoned in Germany where she lived out the final years of her adolescence and the remainder of the War.

At the cusp of adulthood, an orphan, and newly married to a handsome American Air Force captain stationed in Germany, my grandmother joined the wave of thousands upon thousands of post-war refugees setting foot on Ellis Island and laying eyes on Lady Liberty in 1949. I often wonder how my grandmother persisted through all of it. As I encounter my own trials that seem so trivial in comparison, I remind myself of the resolve that was passed on so clearly to my mother, and by luck and maybe a few genetic favors, to myself.

My grandmother was an immigrant. She landed in America by a mix of luck and sheer tenacity. She settled with my grandfather in Long Island, New York slowly gaining fluency in the English language. She raised my mother and uncle. All the way to her death bed, she was a mix of shocking resilience with a presence that could demand the attention of any room while also being inevitably haunted by her past leading to ways of coping that were both admirable and destructive.

The immigrant story is often complex. And yet, it speaks to one of the most basic and primal urges in evolution and humanity. We are build to move, and movement is part of our survival. Migration and nomadism are entrenched in our generational DNA and our heartbeat for the future. We are built to explore and if it were not fo the innate desires for greater safety, resources, and opportunity, the whole notion of progress is turned upside down. It is the story of indigenous peoples native to this country chasing the path of the buffalo, the virgin setters fleeing religious persecution across the Atlantic, the pioneers carving uncharted paths across the Rockies homesteading the American West, and the story of my home state of Oregon—the terminus for Lewis and Clark, and the promised land so many traveled so far to reach. Upwards of thirty percent of pioneers on the Oregon Trail were non-English speaking and most were low income.

“Nearly all Americans have ancestors who braved the oceans – liberty-loving risk takers in search of an ideal – the largest voluntary migrations in recorded history… Immigration is not just a link to America’s past; it’s also a bridge to America’s future.” -George H.W. Bush

As we reflect on immigration today- a topic laced with controversy and politics, it is wasy to stand on the platform of us (the lucky citizens) versus them (the not so lucky non-citizens). We can over-generalize fears of immigrants bringing crime and economic strain. We an slip into dehumanizing rhetoric or attitudes of pity. We can forget the fragility of our own circumstances and take for granted the ancestral grit and resolve that allowed us such comforts in the first place. Like it or not, our nation was build on the backs of immigrants- some here by choice, some here by force.

Accountability and grace can coexist. I so fervently want an end to drug and human trafficking. I support a stronger border. I do worry about the limits of our national resources. I want people removed who have brought crime and violence. I also don’t want families ripped apart. I want my friends and patients to feel comfortable going to church and the grocery store. I don’t want to strip the economy of skilled workers, and I do believe that the process to become “legal” is often daunting, cost prohibitive, and needs reforming. A human that happens to be an immigrant is not a monolith. Can we enforce black and white policies on something so very nuanced?

Our capacity for compassion is one of the greatest indicators of health on both a personal and societal level. When this capacity crumbles, we can revert to apathy, anger, or be quick to find a scapegoat for our discontent. My hope is that we can remember the value of decency for our fellow humans seeking something better, reject dehumanization, advocate for fair and humane policies, and take stock of the adversity and immigrant stories so deeply intertwined within our own heritage and greater nation.

Thank you for listening.

With gratitude,

Audry Van Houweling, Owner & Founder, She Soars Psychiatry, LLC

Sisters & Silverton, Oregon

www.shesoarspsych.com

The Aftermath.

It is Sunday November 10, 2024. It has been a long week. I provide care for patients on all sides of the political fence and some who are hoping to avoid the fence altogether. Inevitably, mental health and policy are intimately connected. Patient opinions are frequently shared and I, trying my best to remain neutral, listen. We are all entitled to our own definition of safety and progress. From what I gather, votes on all sides were cast mostly positions of frustration and fear—not hate. For some, this week’s results brought relief and celebration, while for others there has been panic, anger, and powerlessness. It has been a week of trying to encourage against uncertainty and to refocus on what we know to be true versus operating on assumption. This can be easier said than done with the onslaught of misinformation and profit-fueled propaganda. Nonetheless, democracy, as messy as it can be, has spoken once again.  

Tomorrow, November 11th is Veteran’s Day. I am reflecting on the blood, sweat, and tears engrained in our nation’s soil as we fought and fought again (and still we fight) striving to uphold the Constitutional pursuit of liberty. The morality pertaining to where liberty begins and where it ends is continually evolving. It’s edges have been shaped and reshaped, expanded and contracted as the curtain fell on slavery, as women fought their way to the ballot box, as segregation was dismantled, and as marriage no longer had to be defined by man and woman. What used to be considered criminal, is now protected. We can disagree on where these edges ought to be, but this debate and choir of opinions is a special brand of liberty in itself. It is in mystery and curiosity, not certainty nor absolutes where liberty thrives best.  

My hope is that we can prioritize the pursuit of liberty above any political figurehead. My other hope is that we do not reduce each other (or ourselves) down to a political label, but challenge ourselves to remember nuance and complexity. It may seem we have to dig deep for common threads, but often these connections are just under the surface. The media and curated algorithms have told us stories of deep polarization and contempt for one another fueling a level of distance and distrust counterproductive to any progress. Yes, oppositional and hateful behavior exists and some of us will drink the Kool-Aid served by the pundits, but from my window there is still an abundance of decency and goodwill demonstrated daily by folks on all sides of the political spectrum. Maybe we can surprise ourselves and prove wrong toxic narratives. 

This does not mean we cannot be angry, or sad, or fearful. Is there a time to fight? Yes. I have come to believe that some of the most successful battle campaigns are those without weapons or words of spite, but the continual and stubborn insistence to prioritize dignity and respect for one person at a time. That said, as those who have served this country can attest to, our Constitutional mandate to safeguard Lady Liberty, can also come with the greatest sacrifice.  

When we are in our defensive space, we tend to fight, flight, or freeze. We have tunnel vision. We get primal—territorial. Post-election, many of us might find ourselves in this place. Nobody has a crystal ball to predict what is coming down the pipeline, but it can help to ask ourselves what we know for sure. Do our feelings lie in an assumption? What is our evidence? Is it possible to transcend popular narratives of fear and division? No doubt we should remain watchful and no doubt, idolatry should never surpass our Constitution. Our right to voice dissent ought to be forever upheld. In the meantime, let’s do our best to stop making opinions based on our social media feed. Let’s engage with our fellow citizens & neighbors…face to face. Let’s appreciate sentiment and nuance. Let’s share our stories. Let’s be brave and stand up for individual liberties. Let’s take care of ourselves. Nobody said democracy was easy business, but it is in our right to disagree and express differences that we are strongest. Worry most when the fight stops.  

Happy Veteran’s Day and thank you to all who have served this complex, hard-fought, and beautiful country.  

“Democracy is the form of government in which the free are rulers.” -Aristotle

In solidarity,

Audry Van Houweling, Owner & Founder, She Soars Psychiatry, LLC

Sisters & Silverton, Oregon

Practitioner. Writer. Adventurer.